How to Motivate a Spoiled Teenager to Study and Work Hard?
Despite having gone through the phase themselves, parents always have difficulties dealing with their teenage children. Being a sort of manager in their children’s life a parent needs to know the right way to handle teenagers and to influence them positively. Parents need to be involved in their children’s life without being controlling or over powerful. Lazy and unmotivated teenagers are hard to deal with this is because they tend to be irritable and quick to anger if anyone dares to point out their lack of seriousness.
Teenage hood comes at a time when school is paramount in a child’s life, and as they deal with the changes they experience, they may feel the pressure to excel in their academics. Sometimes teenagers may hate going to school because maybe they feel they do not belong. This is a very critical stage for the young adult which requires understanding parents. Remember that pressuring the child may cause them to withdraw and completely neglect their studies. With the hormones high and the struggle to find their identity, teenagers can find this too much to handle and therefore end up losing motivation. To motivate a spoiled teenager;
* Be patient with them- spoiled teenagers are those brought up to think that people can do things for them and are not keen on determination and rarely put effort in anything they set to do. You cannot just change a spoiled teenager overnight and a lot of patience and guidance is required for a parent to motivate such a child. Teaching them the value of hard work can be done by simply asking them to take responsibility of their lives, tidy their rooms and take care of pets, for example that way they learn to be responsible which is a step towards motivation.
* Enjoy good time with them-every teenager needs a friend, someone they can confide in without feeling insecure. As a parent, you should create time to bond with them over their favorite movie or just a day out. This shows that you care and the teenager can feel secure to open up about their studies, school life and insecurities.
* Reward Them- spoiled teenagers are used to getting everything they want at any time. Parents should not stop this altogether, this should continue but in a regulated manner. Bribing spoiled teenagers only makes them even lazier. Give them a task to perform and offer a reward for motivation. A parent can promise a vacation at the close of school as long as they perform impressively in their studies.
A spoiled teenager is one who has been raised to get everything and everyone at their beck and call. In such a case the parent should not try to change things drastically as this can cause the child to interpret things in a negative way. The best thing would be to take gradual steps like encouraging dialogue and finding a common ground for both parent and child. This way the teenager will open up about the subjects they are passionate about and be encouraged them to pursue their interest.